When you feel mad, upset, out-of-sorts, off balance, not-yourself, etc., there is only one reason why: You are lying to yourself. You are holding an idea in your mind, that is not true, and/or taking an action you don't believe in. When we lie to ourselves, we feel...
We've all been there. Overwhelm. Too much to do, certainly too much to try and control. Yet, if we are in overwhelm, we are trying to control too much, consider too much, do too much at once. Yet, that often gets us into a state wherein we don't do anything. Then,...
Wow, it is counter-intuitive, or at least counter-culture, but we get further ahead by forgiving ourselves for our mistakes/problems/imperfections rather than doubling-down on them by being hard on ourselves. A new study around procrastination supports this: Wohl...
Some things are so simple, yet so hard. Have any kind of interpersonal problem? Any problem involving people at all? You could probably get some progress by telling the truth. Telling the truth to yourself Being honest with yourself about what is OK and not OK...
What is "greatness"? It is you, operating from your default state, which is one of power, wisdom, resourcefulness and energy. Unfortunately, there are things that can get in the way of your greatness. This list is meant to give ideas for taking you back into that...
I hear it all the time..."I need to be realistic"... What does being realistic mean? For most of my clients here's what being realistic really means... Being Realistic Really Means I will constrain my future with the same limitations I have right now I will limit...
The world is trying to evolve you...Are you resisting or transforming? Here are some signs that you are resisting: You feel stuck You are experiencing mental suffering: Stress, worry, doubt You are scared to do things All new input brings up fear Your life is...
The late Thomas Leonard, grandfather of modern coaching said "Life is about us, and it's not personal...And yet it can feel so personal." We are self-obsessed creatures, with complex psychological perceptive mechanisms that are virtually incapable of taking in...
I'm a big fan of things working smoothly, with as little struggle, strain and suffering as possible. Here's a recipe for just those things...Struggle, strain and suffering... Recipe for Getting Something Done: The Hard Way 1 cup of "I have to" 1 cup of "if I...
Today on EZ Rock we talked about the whole David Letterman thing, and I said "truth makes you bulletproof", and it is so true! If you've got a secret that *you* feel bad about, you've got a magnet for drama. If you've come to personal acceptance AND are willing to...
Imagination is the most important tool we have for getting from where we are to somewhere new. The boldness of the "somewhere new" you create for yourself is going to depend on the boldness of your imagination. How much have you been using your imagination muscle?...
I'm walking through the bookstore when I see a bold yellow book, challenging me to answer a provocative question...Curious? My ego wanted to say no, but, and I am so happy about this, I resisted the urge to play it safe, and I said to myself...YES! I *am* curious...
More and more, in my work with myself and my coaching work, I see how fundamental it is that we "trust the self." What I mean by this is that we trust our motives, we trust our capabilities, we trust our "goodness", we trust that we are OK. Here's what trusting the...
I highly recommend this book...Courage:Â The Choice that Makes the Difference, Your Key to a Thousand Doors, by Dwight GoldWinde. Dwight is an amazing man, living the life of his dreams, because he has oriented his life around choosing courage. Here is an excerpt...
Believe it or not, it is possible to live life as follows: - You know what to do in any given moment - You want to do it - The thing you WANT to do IS the thing best for you and the world at large - You don't procrastinate - You don't suffer mentally and...
It is a very common scenario (sadly): Two people have been through a similar or shared trauma, and one is further ahead in healing than the other. For simplicity's sake (and, because this is often how it looks), let's a say we have a male-female couple, wherein the...
Some of my clients fear that if they use this as a measure for success they will do less than they are capable of. Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it. ~Maya Angelou So, maybe you can use this strategy just until...
Yes. Mental performance consultant Ed Tseng posted a great article today on HuffPost, Happiness: Three Things You Probably Didn't Know. My favorite is number 3...And it may even fly in the face of the raison d'être of coaching... 3. The quickest way to happiness:...
I attended a Conversations with Byron Katie event today, and it was very rewarding. There is no doubt that Katie's technique of "The Work" leads to peace, connection with self, and alignment with a Universe built on (of) love. Some of my favorite quotes from Katie...
Last night, I met the best teacher in the world. I've always contended that coaching is different than teaching. Now I'm not sure. Being in the presence of this "teacher" changed me wholly and deeply. Why? What was going on? I was made more fully aware of my...
It is a very common scenario (sadly): Two people have been through a similar or shared trauma, and one is further ahead in healing than the other. For simplicity's sake (and, because this is often how it looks), let's a say we have a male-female couple, wherein the...
Some of my clients fear that if they use this as a measure for success they will do less than they are capable of. Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it. ~Maya Angelou So, maybe you can use this strategy just until...
Yes. Mental performance consultant Ed Tseng posted a great article today on HuffPost, Happiness: Three Things You Probably Didn't Know. My favorite is number 3...And it may even fly in the face of the raison d'être of coaching... 3. The quickest way to happiness:...
I attended a Conversations with Byron Katie event today, and it was very rewarding. There is no doubt that Katie's technique of "The Work" leads to peace, connection with self, and alignment with a Universe built on (of) love. Some of my favorite quotes from Katie...
Last night, I met the best teacher in the world. I've always contended that coaching is different than teaching. Now I'm not sure. Being in the presence of this "teacher" changed me wholly and deeply. Why? What was going on? I was made more fully aware of my...
